http://artofmanliness.com/2010/02/03/boosting-your-resiliency-part-2-avoiding-learned-helplessness-and-changing-your-explanatory-style/ Men's Interests and Lifestyle Sun, 12 Feb 2012 05:52:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://artofmanliness.com/2010/02/03/boosting-your-resiliency-part-2-avoiding-learned-helplessness-and-changing-your-explanatory-style/comment-page-1/#comment-108531 aaron Tue, 06 Jul 2010 02:36:18 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=8746#comment-108531 THis is what i've been waiting for all my life. Something that will explain why i'm so depressed. Thank you! THis is what i’ve been waiting for all my life. Something that will explain why i’m so depressed. Thank you!

]]> http://artofmanliness.com/2010/02/03/boosting-your-resiliency-part-2-avoiding-learned-helplessness-and-changing-your-explanatory-style/comment-page-1/#comment-100778 Strengthen Resiliency by Utilizing Your Signature Strengths | The Art of Manliness Tue, 04 May 2010 04:47:42 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=8746#comment-100778 [...] part in a series designed to help you boost your resiliency. For the previous entries, see Part I, Part II, Part III, and Part IV. [...] [...] part in a series designed to help you boost your resiliency. For the previous entries, see Part I, Part II, Part III, and Part IV. [...]

]]> http://artofmanliness.com/2010/02/03/boosting-your-resiliency-part-2-avoiding-learned-helplessness-and-changing-your-explanatory-style/comment-page-1/#comment-99842 TheModeration.com » Resilience, the bounce back effect! Fri, 16 Apr 2010 00:14:18 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=8746#comment-99842 [...] avoiding learned helplessness, changing your explanatory ways [...] [...] avoiding learned helplessness, changing your explanatory ways [...]

]]> http://artofmanliness.com/2010/02/03/boosting-your-resiliency-part-2-avoiding-learned-helplessness-and-changing-your-explanatory-style/comment-page-1/#comment-99721 Resiliency Part VII: Building Your Children’s Resiliency | The Art of Manliness Wed, 14 Apr 2010 05:35:19 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=8746#comment-99721 [...] we explained in Part II, your explanatory style is how you typically explain the events that happen to you. When faced with [...] [...] we explained in Part II, your explanatory style is how you typically explain the events that happen to you. When faced with [...]

]]> http://artofmanliness.com/2010/02/03/boosting-your-resiliency-part-2-avoiding-learned-helplessness-and-changing-your-explanatory-style/comment-page-1/#comment-91715 differentroads Fri, 19 Feb 2010 10:29:58 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=8746#comment-91715 @Rahul and Tola. Forgive me, but I think you missed a key point by focusing on personal responsibility for a situation. Resilience isn't about what got you into a situation, but how you get yourself out of it. The egocentrism of assuming that you are responsible for something bad happening limits your ability to respond, even if, objectively, you had some blame in the matter. Resilience helps you step out of the blame/guilt cycle into squaring up to putting things right where you can and living with it where you can't. Proper manly behaviour in my book, at least. As the sage almost said "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can't change, courage to change the things I can't accept and the wisdom to hide the bodies of the people who piss me off." @Rahul and Tola. Forgive me, but I think you missed a key point by focusing on personal responsibility for a situation. Resilience isn’t about what got you into a situation, but how you get yourself out of it. The egocentrism of assuming that you are responsible for something bad happening limits your ability to respond, even if, objectively, you had some blame in the matter. Resilience helps you step out of the blame/guilt cycle into squaring up to putting things right where you can and living with it where you can’t. Proper manly behaviour in my book, at least. As the sage almost said “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can’t change, courage to change the things I can’t accept and the wisdom to hide the bodies of the people who piss me off.”

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