Comments on: How to Give Praise Like a Man

By: Brett

Brett — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:12:44 +0000

Thanks for the suggestions, Shelly. We’ll have to look into that. Also, welcome to AoM!

By: Shelly Blue

Shelly Blue — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 12:23:09 +0000

Wow, my first ever read from AoM, & a great one it was, thanks…..& I’m a chick. In answer to your question for the follow up, I suggest both “ways to get it wrong…..” & “Stories about successful praising”.

By: Susan de la Vergne

Susan de la Vergne — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 16:43:21 +0000

For a different perspective, read a chapter called “Praising People Does Not Motivate Them” in MANAGEMENT OF THE ABSURD by Richard Farson.

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By: Thomas Cox

Thomas Cox — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 03:56:00 +0000

Your praise sings in my ears. Thank you all for your kind words. You’ll understand if I steal some of your thoughts — I especially like the Talmud line (thanks AA). This is an area of ongoing research for me. I’ve written other blog entries on the topic, and I’m sure I will again.

If I were to write a followup posting, where would you like me to take it? Ways to get it wrong and how to avoid them? Super Advanced Praise? (Yes, there is such a thing.) Praise in specific circumstances? Stories about successful praising?

Thanks again for the opportunity to write for one of my favorite sites.
-Tom Cox

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By: AA

AA — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:43:27 +0000

A good rule from the old Talmud. Curse a man to his face, praise him behind his back. Words to live by.

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By: Micah

Micah — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 02:16:19 +0000

I just want to point out that this is exactly what fathers should be doing with their children on a daily basis. It is all too easy for us as fathers to point out to our children when they have done something that is incorrect or disobedient, but we often fail to praise our children effectively when they are displaying the morals and character which we are trying to foster in them. A daily investment of praise into your child will do more to shape their life than harping on their mistakes.

By: Beat Attitude

Beat Attitude — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:21:13 +0000

sorry. My effusiveness made me mis-code that last post. It should read: I should try to take some of that advice on board for the guys in my ceilidh bands and keep them in good spirits during the busy wedding season. Oops LOL.

By: Beat Attitude

Beat Attitude — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:15:09 +0000

I really like the way you put that subject across Tom. I’m a manager of around 30-40 musicians, and this kind of encouragement is always really important. Musicians always play better when they feel better about themselves. Your heart really comes out in your work.

I’m considering checking out your show (and your blog) because you really sound like you know what you’re talking about. And Brett, I think you did very well in deciding to publish this post when you did. It showed a real grasp of how to balance and vary the content of a blog, and I’m really glad to see the way Art of Manliness is helped along by that skill you have. OK, I know that sounded kinda false, but I actually mean it

I should try to take some of that advice on board for the guys in my [url=http://www.thejiggers.co.uk]ceilidh bands[/url], and keep them in good spirits during the busy [url=http://ceilidhblog.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/07/wedding-season-and-the-scottish-weather.html]wedding season[/url]!

By: Jason Lankow

Jason Lankow — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 18:22:58 +0000

Great post! I completely agree that the key is to be completely genuine and selfless in the process, and you truly can see someone come to life and thrive…even someone who seems to be self-assured (something I assume about good-looking people more frequently than not) may really need and grow from genuine affirmation. It’s always a tough road with someone who is on the narcissistic/egomaniac side of things as they are fundamentally insecure in many cases but the affirmation seem to inflate their ego and sense of superiority…so it’s best just to fire those people and never talk to them again (just joking).

Again – great article!

By: Eliot Ness

Eliot Ness — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:23:21 +0000

Thanks for the post! This is defiantly something to keep in mind.

By: alexander

alexander — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:47:02 +0000

Excelent post Tom! I suddenly realize how infrequently, regardless of my sincerity and genuine nature, I have been adressing the exactness of the event to which praise is waranted and furthermore the level of proficiency that I have been praising others actions.
QUESTION:
when in areas with many people that one would know well, praise becomes a real bother. Sincerity and precision do not always go over well in large groups, it makes a person seem as if they are overly feminine or a butt-kisser. how does one combat the peanut gallery?

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