Comments on: How to Give Praise Like a Man http://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/ Men's Interests and Lifestyle Mon, 22 Mar 2010 13:50:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Coila Ceilidh Bandhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-74670 Coila Ceilidh Band Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:44:55 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-74670 Great post, that's some good advice. I'll try and incorporate that into my everyday life. Great post, that’s some good advice. I’ll try and incorporate that into my everyday life.

]]> By: Bretthttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-43149 Brett Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:12:44 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-43149 Thanks for the suggestions, Shelly. We'll have to look into that. Also, welcome to AoM! Thanks for the suggestions, Shelly. We’ll have to look into that. Also, welcome to AoM!

]]> By: Shelly Bluehttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-43012 Shelly Blue Thu, 20 Aug 2009 12:23:09 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-43012 Wow, my first ever read from AoM, & a great one it was, thanks.....& I'm a chick. In answer to your question for the follow up, I suggest both "ways to get it wrong....." & "Stories about successful praising". Wow, my first ever read from AoM, & a great one it was, thanks…..& I’m a chick. In answer to your question for the follow up, I suggest both “ways to get it wrong…..” & “Stories about successful praising”.

]]> By: Susan de la Vergnehttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-36524 Susan de la Vergne Fri, 17 Jul 2009 16:43:21 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-36524 For a different perspective, read a chapter called "Praising People Does Not Motivate Them" in MANAGEMENT OF THE ABSURD by Richard Farson. For a different perspective, read a chapter called “Praising People Does Not Motivate Them” in MANAGEMENT OF THE ABSURD by Richard Farson.

]]> By: Thomas Coxhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-35229 Thomas Cox Wed, 08 Jul 2009 03:56:00 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-35229 Your praise sings in my ears. Thank you all for your kind words. You'll understand if I steal some of your thoughts -- I especially like the Talmud line (thanks AA). This is an area of ongoing research for me. I've written other blog entries on the topic, and I'm sure I will again.If I were to write a followup posting, where would you like me to take it? Ways to get it wrong and how to avoid them? Super Advanced Praise? (Yes, there is such a thing.) Praise in specific circumstances? Stories about successful praising?Thanks again for the opportunity to write for one of my favorite sites. -Tom Cox Your praise sings in my ears. Thank you all for your kind words. You’ll understand if I steal some of your thoughts — I especially like the Talmud line (thanks AA). This is an area of ongoing research for me. I’ve written other blog entries on the topic, and I’m sure I will again.

If I were to write a followup posting, where would you like me to take it? Ways to get it wrong and how to avoid them? Super Advanced Praise? (Yes, there is such a thing.) Praise in specific circumstances? Stories about successful praising?

Thanks again for the opportunity to write for one of my favorite sites.
-Tom Cox

]]> By: AAhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-35139 AA Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:43:27 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-35139 A good rule from the old Talmud. Curse a man to his face, praise him behind his back. Words to live by. A good rule from the old Talmud. Curse a man to his face, praise him behind his back. Words to live by.

]]> By: Micahhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-35008 Micah Mon, 06 Jul 2009 02:16:19 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-35008 I just want to point out that this is exactly what fathers should be doing with their children on a daily basis. It is all too easy for us as fathers to point out to our children when they have done something that is incorrect or disobedient, but we often fail to praise our children effectively when they are displaying the morals and character which we are trying to foster in them. A daily investment of praise into your child will do more to shape their life than harping on their mistakes. I just want to point out that this is exactly what fathers should be doing with their children on a daily basis. It is all too easy for us as fathers to point out to our children when they have done something that is incorrect or disobedient, but we often fail to praise our children effectively when they are displaying the morals and character which we are trying to foster in them. A daily investment of praise into your child will do more to shape their life than harping on their mistakes.

]]> By: Beat Attitudehttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34929 Beat Attitude Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:21:13 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34929 sorry. My effusiveness made me mis-code that last post. It should read:I should try to take some of that advice on board for the guys in my <a href="http://www.thejiggers.co.uk" rel="nofollow">ceilidh bands</a> and keep them in good spirits during the busy <a href="http://ceilidhblog.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/07/wedding-season-and-the-scottish-weather.html" rel="nofollow">wedding season.</a>Oops LOL. sorry. My effusiveness made me mis-code that last post. It should read:

I should try to take some of that advice on board for the guys in my ceilidh bands and keep them in good spirits during the busy wedding season.

Oops LOL.

]]> By: Beat Attitudehttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34928 Beat Attitude Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:15:09 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34928 I really like the way you put that subject across Tom. I'm a manager of around 30-40 musicians, and this kind of encouragement is always really important. Musicians always play better when they feel better about themselves. Your heart really comes out in your work.I'm considering checking out your show (and your blog) because you really sound like you know what you're talking about. And Brett, I think you did very well in deciding to publish this post when you did. It showed a real grasp of how to balance and vary the content of a blog, and I'm really glad to see the way Art of Manliness is helped along by that skill you have. OK, I know that sounded kinda false, but I actually mean it ;)I should try to take some of that advice on board for the guys in my [url=http://www.thejiggers.co.uk]ceilidh bands[/url], and keep them in good spirits during the busy [url=http://ceilidhblog.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/07/wedding-season-and-the-scottish-weather.html]wedding season[/url]! I really like the way you put that subject across Tom. I’m a manager of around 30-40 musicians, and this kind of encouragement is always really important. Musicians always play better when they feel better about themselves. Your heart really comes out in your work.

I’m considering checking out your show (and your blog) because you really sound like you know what you’re talking about. And Brett, I think you did very well in deciding to publish this post when you did. It showed a real grasp of how to balance and vary the content of a blog, and I’m really glad to see the way Art of Manliness is helped along by that skill you have. OK, I know that sounded kinda false, but I actually mean it ;)

I should try to take some of that advice on board for the guys in my [url=http://www.thejiggers.co.uk]ceilidh bands[/url], and keep them in good spirits during the busy [url=http://ceilidhblog.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/07/wedding-season-and-the-scottish-weather.html]wedding season[/url]!

]]> By: Jason Lankowhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34853 Jason Lankow Thu, 02 Jul 2009 18:22:58 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34853 Great post! I completely agree that the key is to be completely genuine and selfless in the process, and you truly can see someone come to life and thrive...even someone who seems to be self-assured (something I assume about good-looking people more frequently than not) may really need and grow from genuine affirmation. It's always a tough road with someone who is on the narcissistic/egomaniac side of things as they are fundamentally insecure in many cases but the affirmation seem to inflate their ego and sense of superiority...so it's best just to fire those people and never talk to them again (just joking).Again - great article! Great post! I completely agree that the key is to be completely genuine and selfless in the process, and you truly can see someone come to life and thrive…even someone who seems to be self-assured (something I assume about good-looking people more frequently than not) may really need and grow from genuine affirmation. It’s always a tough road with someone who is on the narcissistic/egomaniac side of things as they are fundamentally insecure in many cases but the affirmation seem to inflate their ego and sense of superiority…so it’s best just to fire those people and never talk to them again (just joking).

Again – great article!

]]> By: Eliot Nesshttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34845 Eliot Ness Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:23:21 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34845 Thanks for the post! This is defiantly something to keep in mind. Thanks for the post! This is defiantly something to keep in mind.

]]> By: alexanderhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34835 alexander Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:47:02 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34835 Excelent post Tom! I suddenly realize how infrequently, regardless of my sincerity and genuine nature, I have been adressing the exactness of the event to which praise is waranted and furthermore the level of proficiency that I have been praising others actions. QUESTION: when in areas with many people that one would know well, praise becomes a real bother. Sincerity and precision do not always go over well in large groups, it makes a person seem as if they are overly feminine or a butt-kisser. how does one combat the peanut gallery? Excelent post Tom! I suddenly realize how infrequently, regardless of my sincerity and genuine nature, I have been adressing the exactness of the event to which praise is waranted and furthermore the level of proficiency that I have been praising others actions.
QUESTION:
when in areas with many people that one would know well, praise becomes a real bother. Sincerity and precision do not always go over well in large groups, it makes a person seem as if they are overly feminine or a butt-kisser. how does one combat the peanut gallery?

]]> By: Hitlerhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34764 Hitler Thu, 02 Jul 2009 05:17:16 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34764 If someone asks you a question, (if it's a good question), tell them it's a good question. It's an indirect way to praise someone. I assume it makes them feel smart. It probably works best with children (who ask more good questions anyway) If someone asks you a question, (if it’s a good question), tell them it’s a good question. It’s an indirect way to praise someone. I assume it makes them feel smart. It probably works best with children (who ask more good questions anyway)

]]> By: Lizmhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34763 Lizm Thu, 02 Jul 2009 05:12:38 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34763 Well said. It is difficult for many people to think well of themselves, but honest feedback about something they do seems easier for most people to relate to and accept. Good point! Well said. It is difficult for many people to think well of themselves, but honest feedback about something they do seems easier for most people to relate to and accept. Good point!

]]> By: Darrenhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/07/01/how-to-give-praise/#comment-34762 Darren Thu, 02 Jul 2009 05:06:28 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=3193#comment-34762 Great post, Tom. It really made me reflect on something I try to do often, but could definitely do better on. Great post, Tom. It really made me reflect on something I try to do often, but could definitely do better on.

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