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By: Be a Better Man in 30 Days | The Art of Manliness

Be a Better Man in 30 Days | The Art of Manliness — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 20:32:04 +0000

[...] Day 29: Conquer a Fear [...]

By: mane

mane — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:54:58 +0000

hey Alejandro,
I am 20 and your thoughts resonate exactly with mine. I considered all that ‘thinking before leaping’ thing to be more of a virtue. But after this post I’m getting a look of the other side. Being purely logical about stuff doesn’t work either, right? Maybe we need to trust our instincts more. I too don’t want to feel missed out on stuff I could have done.

By: TheManRevolution

TheManRevolution — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 02:21:14 +0000

Man, that’s great and all but I don’t think anything in this world is going to cure me from arachnophobia.

Heights and public speaking I can deal with, but 8 legged freaks? Nah.

By: Fitness Blogger » Blog Archive » 30 Days to a Better Man Day 29: Conquer a Fear | The Art of Manliness

Wed, 01 Jul 2009 11:02:00 +0000

[...] Brett & Kate McKay wrote an interesting post today on30 Days to a Better Man Day 29: Conquer a Fear | The Art of ManlinessHere’s a quick excerpt [...]

By: Alejandro

Alejandro — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 02:57:12 +0000

This article spoke to me directly! Fear always has been one of my greatest handicaps. I grew up shy and introverted. Fear of the unknown and of getting hurt always kept me from doing things. It’s a handicap that carried over into my adult years. I’m 45 and just now overcoming my various fears. For one thing, I’ve always been afraid of getting into arguments or fights, so I’d back down; take the high road; turn the other cheek; think of the consequences of acting or speaking before thinking. I’d over-analyze situations and end up paralyzed. I’ve never really liked confrontation, yet I’ve had to realize and accept that it’s an inevitable fact of life. I’ve gotten to the point now, though, that I don’t care much what other people think of me and to speak without thinking too much. For me, it’s an ongoing battle, but one I know I have to win. Above all, I realized long ago that I don’t want to reach old age and wished I’d done certain things.

By: Fitness Blogger » Blog Archive » 30 Days to a Better Man Day 29: Conquer a Fear | The Art of Manliness

Tue, 30 Jun 2009 09:53:33 +0000

[...] Brett & Kate McKay wrote an interesting post today on30 Days to a Better Man Day 29: Conquer a Fear | The Art of ManlinessHere’s a quick excerpt [...]

By: Jesvin

Jesvin — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 17:32:17 +0000

Let me share my fave quotes on fear.

When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Who sees all beings in his own self, and his own self in all beings, loses all fear.Isa Upanishad, Hindu Scripture

What worked for me was: when I have to face a fear, I try to ‘learn’ what I fear. Problems seem intimidating when they are whizzing around in your head. They seem much smaller when you can see them in the light.

Maybe its me, but I love my flashlight of knowledge more than my sword of logic!

By: Mark

Mark — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 16:33:18 +0000

My dad taught me to live in fear. It was always under the guise of “I don’t want you to be afraid, but be cautious.” Also, this entry focuses mainly on the fear of the unknown, yet there is also the fear that stems from prior experiences. Let me give you an example of both of these things in action…

I once worked in the daycare area of a 24 Hr Fitness. I love kids, and I’m good with them, so it was a wonderful part-time job. The kids loved me, the parents loved me. One day, I was accused of doing “something” with two of the little kids (which I didn’t, of course), and instead of take another position at the gym when it was offered, I just decided to leave. There was no legal action taken on the parents’ end, so I’m sure they couldn’t have been TOO convinced.

Months later, I came across a great opportunity to try working at the YMCA – again, with kids. Upon telling my dad, he cringed and told me it was a horrible idea. He responded out of fear. I took the job, and yet because of the pain I’d gone through with my prior accusation, I was doing the job in fear. I was holding myself back with the kids, beyond reason, simply because I had been scarred by my previous experience and was afraid. It took me a long time to overcome that hesitation.

While the decision to take the job was made firmly, my ability to conquer the other fear of another accusation took much longer. So, a word of encouragement to you folks out there… for those of you in a situation of fear that is being dictated not by the unknown, but by your own past – face it! Since this fear carries an emotional weight, I think it can be much more crippling, but it can still be defeated with the same tactics of logic and the brute strength of facing it.

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 15:30:03 +0000

I’m afraid of heights, it’s not just a little bit afraid, more like I’m gonna puke and pass out type fear.

By: Wayne

Wayne — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 14:49:33 +0000

As you probably know, the Greeks believed that Courage was the King of the Virtues because it was the Virtue that guaranteed the others. I can only say, “Yes!”
We have all succeeded at this, and we have all failed. Its the getting up that matters!

Wayne

By: Zach

Zach — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 14:09:30 +0000

It was spiders for me. Fear started leaving after we had an invasion of spiders in our home one night; I found five of them on my pillow. I emailed a guy I found on the web, an arachnologist at UC Riverside. After a few exchanges with him, I was at least curious. So I bought a pet tarantula. Now I have three. I also keep jumping spiders when I can catch them.

So fear is just a lack of understanding. As you understand things more, fear subsides. And you might even find a hobby that interests you.

My son is still nervous around spiders, but his little sister thinks they’re great. . .