Comments on: 30 Days to a Better Man Day 28: Write a Love Letter

By: 30 Days to a Better Man Wrap-Up

30 Days to a Better Man Wrap-Up — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 00:53:35 +0000

[...] Day 28: Write a Love Letter [...]

By: Biggyrat

Biggyrat — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 06:12:14 +0000

I have been writing my wife of twenty four years a love letter at least twice a month for years. She never tires of it, and I will continue to compose those syupy sweet notes. So get yourself some nice stationary gentlemen, and lay it on thick, with numerous pronouncements of ooey-gooey deliciousness. The ladies love it, and the fringe benefits aren’t bad either.

By: Soon to be married

Soon to be married — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:08:29 +0000

I am very lucky because my fiance is doing this “30 Days to a Better Man” blog. He is already a wonderful and caring man, and this is really making me love him more to see him to interested in improving himself. He writes me sweet cards all the time and always tells me he loves me. I guess I am very lucky and blessed.

By: Jason Y

Jason Y — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 15:39:54 +0000

Thanks for the post! My letters to my wife have been getting kind of dry and repetitive. The ideas you suggest should improve the letter-writing tremendously. Recalling memories especially should be helpful because I’m not normally very active about doing that with her, so I think doing that in a letter will mean a lot to her.

By: Halim Naeem

Halim Naeem — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 05:07:11 +0000

Words have a different meaning to women than to men. Love letters are very direct and potent ways of getting to the female heart. This is a great breakdown and tutorial in a masculine way of how to write a love letter. Hats off to you !!!

By: Julia

Julia — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 00:01:35 +0000

Wonderful, wonderful post. I agree with Dan on the privacy of the letters, the few emails my husband wrote me were for my eyes only and so they remain.

Couldn’t agree more on the “We feel that our love for someone is manifestly obvious” stance by men, and that we women just don’t take it that way. I’ve written love letters and even one erotic letter (gulp! yeah, I did that) and it broke my heart to see my husband destroy them on the reasoning that he had already read them. (I don’t take it personally – he also destroys Christmas and Birthday cards after the event, and he’s had more than one irate word from yours truly after getting through my old mail).

While I wish he would express himself in more elaborate ways (this is, through letters or presents), it is also true that he wishes I’d said “I love you” as often as he does, and that he reads my mood through my actions and hopes me to do the same (the house is a dirty mess = there’s something wrong going on / the house shines, the food is good, I’m feeling very crafty = everything is fine).

Communication in the sense of “fine tunning” is one of the biggest challenges of domestic partnership. Patience, respect and of course love, are the tools to get the tunning done. Don’t you think so?

By: Michael@TheSenderofCards

Michael@TheSenderofCards — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 20:49:03 +0000

Excellent post. Having spent over twenty years in the Army and many times away from my family, I would say that receiving (and sending) love letters is one of the ways my wife and I were able to keep our love for each other. We just recently celebrated our twenty year anniversary. Writing each other “real letters and cards” made it seem that we weren’t so far apart.

I have been out of the Army for several years, but still send a card to my wife quite often. It is also nice to clean out a back corner of the closet and come across a box of old letters. It reminds me of what we had and still have.

By: Dan

Dan — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 16:38:37 +0000

@Alecia: I agree with your points, but let me just say, that many guys do not write love letters because they do not want their recipients to do exactly what you do: share them with their friends. Love letters only have one name on them and the owner of that name is the only intended audience for those letters.
I write love letters to my girlfriend all the time, but I would stop right away if she started showing them to her friends.

By: jcard21

jcard21 — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 15:53:35 +0000

Isn’t it wonderful how civil war soldiers (men!) on both sides could express themselves so beautifully? So very much has been lost in education today. Letter-writing should be required of children; thank you notes, too! I believe letter-writing is a learned art, and can be admirably performed by anyone. Habits are built by repetition and purpose.

Love letters don’t always have to be as long as the excellent example in the article. Some can be just one sentence or one paragraph. Some can be a Western Union telegram (before email). Please read:

http://www.amazon.com/Love-You-Ronnie-Letters-Ronald/dp/0375760512/

Ronald Reagan not only wrote to Nancy when they were separated. He also would write her a note when they were sitting in the same room! That was a man in love!

By: Alecia

Alecia — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 03:11:54 +0000

Brett: I’ve been reading this blog now for some time and I am always impressed by what you have to say. The internet is greatly improved by your contributions. This is the first article that has really inspired me to comment.

You are absolutely right when you say that us women “want to hear the words behind the actions.” You can be the perfect partner, but a love letter will lighten up a woman’s day more than any other romantic action.

As the fiancee to a soldier in the army, love letters are one of the most important things in my life right now. He is in basic, so we don’t get phone calls at all, only letters. I can honestly say that through these love letters we have become closer and learned more about one another than during all five years we have been together.

Love letters are definitely things that women cherish. I read mine over and over, both personally and to my friends. Many of them, even those that are married, have never gotten a love letter, and they are very envious. Well thought-out and written love letters boost our confidence in both our selves and our relationships. It’s always nice to be told that we are beautiful, but to have it written down just makes it that much more special. Also, the thought that our man has taken the time out of his busy day just to write us reaffirms his level of love and commitment.

My love letters are very special to me, and I plan on keeping them and sharing them with my children when I am older. It will give them an example of how men should treat their women, as well as show them how in love their parents are.

Just remember, guys, be yourselves. I love getting little doodles and cute little sayings off to the sides of my letters. Just because a love letter is a little formal doesn’t mean it has to be stiff. Make the format your own and your woman will love it.