Comments on: 30 Days to a Better Man Day 9: Take a Woman on a Date

By: will

will — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 15:03:52 +0000

It’s easy to ask someone out on a date if you know them somewhat,a colleague,another lady from your club,the challenge is asking complete stangers out like the lady who catches your eye at the supermarket.Any tips?

By: Joe Proctor

Joe Proctor — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 03:23:36 +0000

Married for almost 10 years. I’ve always valued the importance of alone time for the couple. I think far too many marriages fail when the kids become the focus. The core relationship that started the family matters most.

Never been able to have a weekly date night, but I make sure to spend time with her as much as possible.

Tomorrow’s task (which will be day 9 for me) – Kings Island’s Halloween Haunt plus Fright Feast minus the kids.

By: Lady Brain

Lady Brain — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 17:27:36 +0000

This is the best advice ever!! A date night in marriage is a saving grace, and treating a woman in a focused meaningful way will always be rewarded emotionally, and often physically. Whether it’s a first date or a 100th. Check out the female perspective on this and other topics–(if you dare!) at http://askladybrain.com

By: Brett

Brett — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:49:21 +0000

@Julian-

Check out the link up in the sentence that says, “Check out this post for some great ideas.” It links to a post with 13 great date ideas.

By: Julian

Julian — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:24:31 +0000

Good post but I find it lacking…Ideas or inspiration for the killer date is most welcomed!

By: Daniel

Daniel — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 03:56:29 +0000

I think this is a great idea, except for one detail- I don’t date. I do have female friends, and don’t have issues with those who do date, I just have decided not to. So good luck to you guys with your dates, and if any of you live near San Antonio I have suggestions…

By: Tom from Vancouver, BC

Tom from Vancouver, BC — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:35:41 +0000

E- I think you know what the author meant. In fact, I find you ridiculous for even posting your comment. The idea of the article was not about men dating women to be manly, it was about going out on a date with someone and committing time to that one person instead of just hanging around a large group of friends and having “f**k buddies.” Act like a man and don’t get so offended over such trivial things!

By: Nick

Nick — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:24:07 +0000

Like E, I am not of the heterosexual persuasion. I am already planning something for my guy’s birthday tomorrow. We have shared a committed monogamous relationship for nearly 9 years now, and I confess that I could do more to spark some romance with my partner.

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 18:06:52 +0000

I’m not exactly taking this 30 day challenge, myself, but I’m still following along every day to check out the suggestions. Today’s is most definitely a good suggestion, however as the folks above have mentioned – trying to force this to happen TODAY can be a little hasty.

I just met a gal, and things are moving along well (and more importantly, at a natural pace), but a jump to asking her out is still slightly premature.

I know your intentions with this blog series are all the best, though, and I think it’s pretty cool to have such an endeavor going for a month

By: Cutter

Cutter — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 17:17:09 +0000

We almost never go out for dinner anymore. Far too often, we’re disappointed with the quality of the food, feel guilty about spending a fortune, or have the experience ruined by loud families at the next table who don’t know how to behave in public.

So, for nearly a year, my wife and I have enjoyed a very nice Friday night dinner at home. I enjoy cooking immensely – especially French, Italian, and Mediterranean – and I spend a little time throughout the week planning the meal and gathering the best ingredients. My wife, who admits to being a lousy cook, really enjoys researching and sourcing the perfect wine for the meal. Then on Friday evening, we hang out in the kitchen, enjoying conversation, pre-dinner cocktails, and jazz or classical music, while I prepare dinner.

We have a wonderful evening together, have long conversations, and best of all, we don’t have anyone rudely talking on a cell phone next to us or letting their poorly-behaved kids have the run of the place. If the meal is especially good, I record the recipe & wine in a cooking journal I keep. My wife often works 14 hour days and this is a great way to shake off the week’s stress.

We don’t miss restaurants at all.

By: E

Tue, 09 Jun 2009 16:14:06 +0000

I’m queer, but I’ll happily take another gentlemen out to dinner and call this challenge complete.

It seems ridiculous that I have to bring this up… in 2009, are we really still stuck at a point where men have to date women to be men?

By: M

Tue, 09 Jun 2009 15:03:09 +0000

I think the encouragement behind this article is not about being a pick-up artist, but it also does not mean waiting around for the perfect situation to present itself without any effort. Part of being a man (at least with women who have the expectations that accompany traditional gender roles) is taking a chance and not being afraid of rejection. To those that say this is a tough ‘do it today’ thing for the single guy, I would disagree because you will most likely see at least one woman that you MIGHT be interested in today. If you do, this is about encouraging you to do something about it. Single guys are single because they either choose to be or they are afraid to take a chance on someone they don’t know. There are a lot of good single women out there who want to be asked out if you will just talk to them. Try being confident, a little funny, and emotionally stable when you meet them and you might have a chance in finding a girl you actually like.

By: Anas

Anas — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 13:59:25 +0000

Great post.
Though I must say that the 3P’s are rubbish! Of course the first one is required, but a date does not have to be planned nor paid for to be succesful. The most important thing is that you have fun and enjoy yourself, and this might as well be done on a spontaneous date in the park as in a fancy restaurant.

By: Luke

Luke — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 13:48:02 +0000

“I think Mystery would definitely disagree with this. A guy who is a pick-up artist can get a date in just 20 minutes if he wants to.”

those are not the kind of girls I want to date

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 13:38:08 +0000

“But I will agree with oracle898, that if you are single and without an interesting prospect, this is almost impossible to do in a day.”

I think Mystery would definitely disagree with this. A guy who is a pick-up artist can get a date in just 20 minutes if he wants to.