Comments on: The Problem With Porn http://artofmanliness.com/2009/05/11/the-problem-with-porn/ Men's Interests and Lifestyle Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:32:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jack http://artofmanliness.com/2009/05/11/the-problem-with-porn/comment-page-3/#comment-113566 jack Fri, 13 Aug 2010 16:39:33 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2917#comment-113566 this is as heteronormative as it comes. The difference between straight and gay men: Straight men watch porn and say "I wish my girlfriend would let me do that." Gay men watch porn and get ideas for the next romp with their boyfriends. The gender dynamics and 'sexual objectification' doesn't really work out the same way. And anyone who thinks a gay man is less than a man clearly hasn't met any big muscle bears. this is as heteronormative as it comes. The difference between straight and gay men:
Straight men watch porn and say “I wish my girlfriend would let me do that.” Gay men watch porn and get ideas for the next romp with their boyfriends. The gender dynamics and ‘sexual objectification’ doesn’t really work out the same way. And anyone who thinks a gay man is less than a man clearly hasn’t met any big muscle bears.

]]> By: Sadie http://artofmanliness.com/2009/05/11/the-problem-with-porn/comment-page-3/#comment-113552 Sadie Fri, 13 Aug 2010 13:51:18 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2917#comment-113552 So, the infamous discussion on pornography has ensued. Firstly - No, of course it is not WRONG for men and women to masterbate, it is a way of finding out what we like, and helps us to direct our partners. But what i would like to know, is if porn is such a necessity, why did millions of men and women manage to have extremely successful masterbation sessions and sexual encounters before porn came into existance? It is utter rubbish to say " i can't imagine images, situations etc, porn allows me to do that",You CAN do that, you are simply to lazy. Porn allows people to look at others in a sexually gratifying way, and to not feel guilty about it. So if it is not morally wrong, when your girlfriend/boyfriend find's those websites on your pc, do you lie about it? or feel guilty, or get defensive. Surely if there is nothing to be ashamed of, then you would have no issue with admitting the fact. I have watched porn, and everything about it is physical. You wouldn't watch a porn in which you wern't attracted to the guy/girl. For example, if the woman was grossly overweight, the chances of you chosing that video compared to a girl with pert breasts and a fit figure are VERY slim - Because its all about attractiveness when it comes down to it. I'm not saying that porn is wrong, and horrible, but it DOES have the ability to impair a persons morals, viewpoints, and expectations. No matter how strong-willed and opinionated that person may be. Thankyou. So, the infamous discussion on pornography has ensued.
Firstly – No, of course it is not WRONG for men and women to masterbate, it is a way of finding out what we like, and helps us to direct our partners. But what i would like to know, is if porn is such a necessity, why did millions of men and women manage to have extremely successful masterbation sessions and sexual encounters before porn came into existance?
It is utter rubbish to say ” i can’t imagine images, situations etc, porn allows me to do that”,You CAN do that, you are simply to lazy. Porn allows people to look at others in a sexually gratifying way, and to not feel guilty about it. So if it is not morally wrong, when your girlfriend/boyfriend find’s those websites on your pc, do you lie about it? or feel guilty, or get defensive. Surely if there is nothing to be ashamed of, then you would have no issue with admitting the fact.
I have watched porn, and everything about it is physical. You wouldn’t watch a porn in which you wern’t attracted to the guy/girl. For example, if the woman was grossly overweight, the chances of you chosing that video compared to a girl with pert breasts and a fit figure are VERY slim – Because its all about attractiveness when it comes down to it.
I’m not saying that porn is wrong, and horrible, but it DOES have the ability to impair a persons morals, viewpoints, and expectations. No matter how strong-willed and opinionated that person may be.

Thankyou.

]]> By: Linda http://artofmanliness.com/2009/05/11/the-problem-with-porn/comment-page-3/#comment-107278 Linda Sat, 26 Jun 2010 03:55:40 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2917#comment-107278 Thank you.. you have renewed my hope that there are men out there who get it. If you're a man who shares the point of view in this article, find me! Thank you.. you have renewed my hope that there are men out there who get it. If you’re a man who shares the point of view in this article, find me!

]]> By: bruce bacon http://artofmanliness.com/2009/05/11/the-problem-with-porn/comment-page-3/#comment-105151 bruce bacon Tue, 15 Jun 2010 16:47:34 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2917#comment-105151 You mention good interpersonal clues like lonely: men not able to seek out women, easy high, things like that. I agree. When I first began surfing, I surfed daily, to get exercise, and also to be part of something, more challanging, more adventurious, more socially connected, and more happier than sitting around watching TV, or waxing the car. I think all men have that inside, but porno really shuts it "off" in me. Talking about endoriphines, well that is what surfing or swimming is all about. But check it out! A person must beable to get out into the surf; he must be skilled, and work at it! Now look at the thrill rides at the amusement parks. Same sensation...pretty much, like a 25 foot wave in Hawaii, but with out risk. So in many ways I think your article does a great job at attacking the subject-because porno, is a whole lot of pleasure but with out risk, or effort...I really agree with this article... MEN NEED TO GET OUT, move around, inter act, then they realize, a lot of what is going on around them is totally a psych out!!! They can over come the adversity with more confidence...Thanks for your article, I will try to put some of the things I learned into practice-great job. You mention good interpersonal clues like lonely: men not able to seek out women,
easy high, things like that. I agree. When I first began surfing, I surfed daily, to get exercise, and also to be part of something, more challanging, more adventurious, more socially connected, and more happier than sitting around watching TV, or waxing the car. I think all men have that inside, but porno really shuts it “off” in me.
Talking about endoriphines, well that is what surfing or swimming is all about. But check it out! A person must beable to get out into the surf; he must be skilled, and work at it! Now look at the thrill rides at the amusement parks. Same sensation…pretty much, like a 25 foot wave in Hawaii, but with out risk. So in many ways I think your article does a great job at attacking the subject-because porno, is a whole lot of pleasure but with out risk, or effort…I really agree with this article…

MEN NEED TO GET OUT, move around, inter act, then they realize, a lot of what is going on around them is totally a psych out!!! They can over come the adversity with more confidence…Thanks for your article, I will try to put some of the things I learned into practice-great job.

]]> By: Average Joe http://artofmanliness.com/2009/05/11/the-problem-with-porn/comment-page-3/#comment-104321 Average Joe Wed, 09 Jun 2010 14:56:57 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2917#comment-104321 I will tell you like this only a loser would watch porn all day long, personally I watch a clip and keep it moving its a means of getting my rocks off so I wont feel lustful during the important times of the day. So that when I get around women I won't be thinking about sex but actually engaging into a meaningful and understanding conversation with them.I view the porn industry as a means of expressing healthy sexual needs but I do believe deviant practices should be outlawed such as homosexual,and all of the other crazy stuff that some people are into. That is the filthy part of porn the deviant practices. I will tell you like this only a loser would watch porn all day long, personally I watch a clip and keep it moving its a means of getting my rocks off so I wont feel lustful during the important times of the day. So that when I get around women I won’t be thinking about sex but actually engaging into a meaningful and understanding conversation with them.I view the porn industry as a means of expressing healthy sexual needs but I do believe deviant practices should be outlawed such as homosexual,and all of the other crazy stuff that some people are into. That is the filthy part of porn the deviant practices.

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