Comments on: How to Weather a Break-Up Like a Man http://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/ Men's Interests and Lifestyle Mon, 22 Mar 2010 07:58:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jarrett Pappashttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-97799 Jarrett Pappas Sun, 21 Mar 2010 01:38:30 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-97799 @ seashells:I honestly know how you feel. My girlfriend of a couple years (who I was also living with) left me for her ex in a freaking heartbeat. At first it was like hitting a brick wall.Really the only advice I can give is forget and move on. I know at first it's hard to forget her, just try and surround yourself with other people (like friends!), it helps loads. Though if your friends seem a bit busy, Johnny Walker will always take your call! @ seashells:

I honestly know how you feel. My girlfriend of a couple years (who I was also living with) left me for her ex in a freaking heartbeat. At first it was like hitting a brick wall.

Really the only advice I can give is forget and move on. I know at first it’s hard to forget her, just try and surround yourself with other people (like friends!), it helps loads. Though if your friends seem a bit busy, Johnny Walker will always take your call!

]]> By: seashellshttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-96925 seashells Tue, 09 Mar 2010 03:17:50 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-96925 I should really follow some of the advice on this site.. I can't help but think about my recent ex.. 2 years of not only being together but living together for the full 2 years... being alone in a bed again is horrible, not only that but I'm still not 100% on why we split up.. there is some major closure issues going on here.. but she doesn't want to see me or spend a second of the day talking to me about anything to do with it.. obveously It's hurting her too when she thinks about me.. but at the same time.. I wish I could understand. I only have 2 fears in the world, number 1 is being alone.. and number 2 is the unknown.. since being alone means that the unknown preys on my mind.. so sleeping is a real issue for me.What should I do? I want to speak to her but she absolutley refuses to talk to me, not because I did anything wrong.. usually when two people argue isn't it right to discuss what happened and why? :/I'm sitting up at 3 am 1 month on to the day since I last made love to her, and last slept in the same bed as her.. and I feel like crap. I should really follow some of the advice on this site.. I can’t help but think about my recent ex.. 2 years of not only being together but living together for the full 2 years… being alone in a bed again is horrible, not only that but I’m still not 100% on why we split up.. there is some major closure issues going on here.. but she doesn’t want to see me or spend a second of the day talking to me about anything to do with it.. obveously It’s hurting her too when she thinks about me.. but at the same time.. I wish I could understand.
I only have 2 fears in the world, number 1 is being alone.. and number 2 is the unknown.. since being alone means that the unknown preys on my mind.. so sleeping is a real issue for me.

What should I do? I want to speak to her but she absolutley refuses to talk to me, not because I did anything wrong.. usually when two people argue isn’t it right to discuss what happened and why? :/

I’m sitting up at 3 am 1 month on to the day since I last made love to her, and last slept in the same bed as her.. and I feel like crap.

]]> By: heart brokehttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-96920 heart broke Tue, 09 Mar 2010 01:54:46 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-96920 Bo and bzb, I have just been handed my heart on a platter as well. I have been in love with this woman for 5 years. Now I find out she is talking with her ex again and i call her on it and she says i invaded her privacy. She said she would never stop talking to him and said its him over me. Its killing me, i cant sleep, eat or most of all stop thinking of her. I agree this is some good info on this site, but when will my heart feel whole again? Bo and bzb,
I have just been handed my heart on a platter as well. I have been in love with this woman for 5 years. Now I find out she is talking with her ex again and i call her on it and she says i invaded her privacy. She said she would never stop talking to him and said its him over me. Its killing me, i cant sleep, eat or most of all stop thinking of her. I agree this is some good info on this site, but when will my heart feel whole again?

]]> By: bzbhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-89988 bzb Mon, 15 Feb 2010 13:37:35 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-89988 @Bo: second that. Sorry, mate, I do not have answers, I have the same situation and questions. Our lives were so boundeled together, now I feel I lost my half. The better one. More than 5 years are gone. Just gone. @Bo: second that.
Sorry, mate, I do not have answers, I have the same situation and questions. Our lives were so boundeled together, now I feel I lost my half. The better one.
More than 5 years are gone. Just gone.

]]> By: Bohttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-80121 Bo Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:47:30 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-80121 I am currently going through this right now after 3 years of living togther being engaged thinking I'd spend the rest of my life with her she decided we couldn't work. She left moved away and left me to pick up the pieces. I become so dependent on having her around that Im not sure who i am anymore. Everyone says Bo be urself love urself but when ur going through it nobody can give the right advice. It's funny things were easy are now hard. I don't check the mail do dishes take garbage out any of the things that makes u Normal. I still have dreams I sleep 2 hours at night now sleeping pills do nothing drinking every day doesn't do it. I considered my self secure I have a great job great fam lots of friends, but it's the nights that kill me. It's been 4 months since the break up but I still can't close my eyes with out seeing her. I pray until I fall a sleep. Not to have her back cause that wouldn't help I just pray the thoughts I have go away. Yes this is written the way a teen would write about how they feel cunning thing I'm turning 30 this year. I grew up with nothing dirt poor and if u would of told me when I was 15 that ud have a new house in the city brand BMW make close to 6fig have great fam and friends only thing that would be missing is that other person I would of said I'll take it in a heart beat. Nothing matters if ur not happy with urself I'm in a bad spot. If anyone reads this and can give me advice I'd like to hear. Someone said life starts the minute u want it too. I just need to start... I am currently going through this right now after 3 years of living togther being engaged thinking I’d spend the rest of my life with her she decided we couldn’t work. She left moved away and left me to pick up the pieces. I become so dependent on having her around that Im not sure who i am anymore. Everyone says Bo be urself love urself but when ur going through it nobody can give the right advice. It’s funny things were easy are now hard. I don’t check the mail do dishes take garbage out any of the things that makes u Normal. I still have dreams I sleep 2 hours at night now sleeping pills do nothing drinking every day doesn’t do it. I considered my self secure I have a great job great fam lots of friends, but it’s the nights that kill me. It’s been 4 months since the break up but I still can’t close my eyes with out seeing her. I pray until I fall a sleep. Not to have her back cause that wouldn’t help I just pray the thoughts I have go away. Yes this is written the way a teen would write about how they feel cunning thing I’m turning 30 this year. I grew up with nothing dirt poor and if u would of told me when I was 15 that ud have a new house in the city brand BMW make close to 6fig have great fam and friends only thing that would be missing is that other person I would of said I’ll take it in a heart beat. Nothing matters if ur not happy with urself I’m in a bad spot. If anyone reads this and can give me advice I’d like to hear. Someone said life starts the minute u want it too. I just need to start…

]]> By: Johnhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-56341 John Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:47:06 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-56341 Don't forget to watch "Swingers" either!! Don’t forget to watch “Swingers” either!!

]]> By: man4kidshttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-55584 man4kids Mon, 26 Oct 2009 16:09:23 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-55584 One issue, however, almost never gets addressed and talked about in these kind of articles, namely when you and your soon-to-be/already-Ex have kids together. Besides all the good points already made, there's the number one thing for you to do: Be there for your kids and give them all the love you can possibly give them. This includes hanging out with them as much as possible and never talking bad about the other parent. Of course be honest about the state of affairs, but do never forget...for the kids there'll always be Mommy and Daddy *as a unit*. Do not rob them of that security blanket because of your own personal issues with your Ex...the kids have nothing, NOTHING to do with that! If you can, try to maintain a dignified, workable and polite relationship with your Ex. This will make many things a lot easier. Put your future and changed relationship on the grounds, that while everything between you may now be at opposites, you both love your kids and continue to act in their best interests. If nothing else, they need to know that you do because you (both) are the world to them. One issue, however, almost never gets addressed and talked about in these
kind of articles, namely when you and your soon-to-be/already-Ex have kids
together.
Besides all the good points already made, there’s the number one thing for you
to do: Be there for your kids and give them all the love you can possibly give
them. This includes hanging out with them as much as possible and never
talking bad about the other parent. Of course be honest about the state of
affairs, but do never forget…for the kids there’ll always be Mommy and Daddy
*as a unit*. Do not rob them of that security blanket because of your own
personal issues with your Ex…the kids have nothing, NOTHING to do with that!
If you can, try to maintain a dignified, workable and polite relationship with
your Ex. This will make many things a lot easier. Put your future and changed
relationship on the grounds, that while everything between you may now be at
opposites, you both love your kids and continue to act in their best
interests. If nothing else, they need to know that you do because you (both)
are the world to them.

]]> By: prufockhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-54407 prufock Tue, 20 Oct 2009 01:26:10 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-54407 Ha! I could have used this guide a couple of years ago, when I went through my first really painful break-up. My particular trespasses are being the "pathetic, sobbing wretch" and spending too much time on Facebook. Well, you live, you learn. Ha! I could have used this guide a couple of years ago, when I went through my first really painful break-up. My particular trespasses are being the “pathetic, sobbing wretch” and spending too much time on Facebook. Well, you live, you learn.

]]> By: Philliphttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-40703 Phillip Mon, 10 Aug 2009 03:22:33 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-40703 Dealing with break ups are easier if you go into it understanding that most women are oppurtunistic and will trade you in as soon as they think they can do better, and that your relationship will probably end, unless you make a lot of money, and design your life around doing exactly what she wants Dealing with break ups are easier if you go into it understanding that most women are oppurtunistic and will trade you in as soon as they think they can do better, and that your relationship will probably end, unless you make a lot of money, and design your life around doing exactly what she wants

]]> By: Berthttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-37840 Bert Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:47:19 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-37840 Wonderful article. Some excellent advice, and even more in the comments section (particularly Grant and ellis - few things demonstrate one's manliness as effectively as speaking well of an ex!).The only other piece of advice I can offer from past experience: remember that if she found you worthy to date for __ period of time, then someone else will too. You might be afraid of being alone for the rest of your life, but the sooner you realize how worthy you are, the sooner you'll see just how easy it will be to date again. And don't be gun-shy, man up and ask other women out once you're ready for it! Each rejection just brings you one step closer to your next special someone. Wonderful article. Some excellent advice, and even more in the comments section (particularly Grant and ellis – few things demonstrate one’s manliness as effectively as speaking well of an ex!).

The only other piece of advice I can offer from past experience: remember that if she found you worthy to date for __ period of time, then someone else will too. You might be afraid of being alone for the rest of your life, but the sooner you realize how worthy you are, the sooner you’ll see just how easy it will be to date again. And don’t be gun-shy, man up and ask other women out once you’re ready for it! Each rejection just brings you one step closer to your next special someone.

]]> By: LionHearthttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-36335 LionHeart Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:15:46 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-36335 Good advice. Another tip that really works is to watch an inspirational film clip everyday or whenever you need a lift. Something that confirms your status as a dominant male..a man... the top of the food chain and chain of command. Try millitary or simply Lions in the wild. Good advice. Another tip that really works is to watch an inspirational film clip everyday or whenever you need a lift. Something that confirms your status as a dominant male..a man… the top of the food chain and chain of command. Try millitary or simply Lions in the wild.

]]> By: Copperpothttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-29395 Copperpot Wed, 27 May 2009 19:20:04 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-29395 This is a lot of great advice. The only thing that confuses me is the title, it says "How to break up like a man"; what man uses facebook or myspace? This is a lot of great advice. The only thing that confuses me is the title, it says “How to break up like a man”; what man uses facebook or myspace?

]]> By: holleyhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-26001 holley Sun, 26 Apr 2009 15:07:21 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-26001 Excellent tips on "what not to do" but what about pro-active steps to take to move on? I got dumped after five solid happy years then found some traditional male responses truly helpful - no talking about it - lots of drinking, live rock and comedy clubs, screwing around - also throwing myself into my job, computers, ocean sports, etc. Guys are luckier in this regard: more interests and intellectual activities to lean on. Excellent tips on “what not to do” but what about pro-active steps to take to move on? I got dumped after five solid happy years then found some traditional male responses truly helpful – no talking about it – lots of drinking, live rock and comedy clubs, screwing around – also throwing myself into my job, computers, ocean sports, etc. Guys are luckier in this regard: more interests and intellectual activities to lean on.

]]> By: Vukhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-25965 Vuk Sat, 25 Apr 2009 00:20:15 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-25965 Wow, what timing, a girl i was deeply involved with for 3 years just told me she needed "a break" for a little while yesturday. We all know thats as good as goodbye... great article, im glad to say that ive done everything practically identically to the advice given. I suppose now only time will tell what will happen. Wow, what timing, a girl i was deeply involved with for 3 years just told me she needed “a break” for a little while yesturday. We all know thats as good as goodbye… great article, im glad to say that ive done everything practically identically to the advice given. I suppose now only time will tell what will happen.

]]> By: Brianhttp://artofmanliness.com/2009/04/21/how-to-weather-a-break-up-like-a-man/#comment-25932 Brian Thu, 23 Apr 2009 23:28:00 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=2418#comment-25932 Impeccable timing - do you guys spy on my life and post articles that are always timely? Thank you! Impeccable timing – do you guys spy on my life and post articles that are always timely? Thank you!

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