Hiring Strippers doesn’t have to be a trashy thing. Your friends should hand pick the “right’ ladies to entertain you on such a night along with hand picking other activites you would enjoy as well.

Oh my poor castrated masses, with cries of “RESPECT”. No one said disrespect was apart of having strippers at a party, unless that is how you conduct yourself in the presence of an exotic dancer or if your bride to be would disapprove of course.

Perhaps some of you don’t have the self control to have such a party and that’s fine, but don’t call your fellow man a cavemen because he chooses to enjoy himself in a non-prudish manner. Puritans, please exit the 16th century.

For me a casual evening( no jeans, no sneakers) at a nice catered hall with football on multiple screens,a fine collection of cigars, rare bottles of cognac and scotch, only my closest friends and family (hers and mine), good looking strippers, and lots of toast all night would be great. My woman would not only approve she would encourage me to have a good time and not feel the slightest bit disrespected in the process. I think we could even merge our bachelor/bachelorette parties, that would be fun too.

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I wanted to do something classy and manly of course so I went out and bought some nice cigars for the group. We are going to have dinner at a local steak house and then to a local piano bar to sit around with our cigars and pipes and drink some good scotch… I might even bust out a fake mustache to fit in a little more…I think the boys will be impressed a woman planned this.

What rock did you crawl out from under? First of all, anyone who views marriage as “walking someone down the plank”, clearly has the mentality of a ninth-grader. Secondly, you’re dreaming if you think that your lame advice will make anyone happier (not the groom, in the long run, and certainly not the bride). Commitment just doesn’t work that way, having “lots of hot girls have their way with him” mere hours or days before he says I do.

It’s about RESPECT. I’ve been told that having respect is more important to men than love. Well, it works both ways.

And as a joke, I did stop by Ace Hardware before my buddies bachelor party and for $3-$4 got a stripper- paint stripper. His wife thought it was hilarious and he brought the “stripper” back to my party a year later.

That’s what having a bachelor party is all about. Make it something to remember. My poor best man is going to have to think hard as Ive spent more than my fair share of time in strip clubs and going to one wont be all that memorable for me. For mine I have no idea what I want. Had we gone boobie watching we would have missed out on a seriously memorable night.

Also make sure you find out who is coming and how this sucker is financed. The only person who shouldnt be paying for anything is the groom. Everyone else better be ponying up! And make sure if you organize you get paid ahead of time so its not coming out of your pocket. Overcharge people a little so there is money for incidentals that come up because they always do. As the best man and party organizer its unfortunatly your job to make sure party goes smoothly and everyone has a great time. That means easy on the booze there big guy. That was a problem I ran into. Money. Everything sounds great and awsome until guys realize they have to pony up. I had a bunch of commits to the paintball and dinner part, (the concert was reserved for a select few very good friends and hey not everyone is into metal.) Only to have people back out of the paintball and only want to come to dinner. Ironically the more people you have come, the cheaper per person it can be for activities and transportation. But you get a bigger bill overall. We had a huge H1 limo(Groom is a car guy) and it was the same price if it was 1 of us or 20. Maybe friends of the groom were just cheap bastards but I never heard a bunch of guys commit to something only to start backing out after all plans had been made when it came time to pay the bill. Always call for group rates and party rates. Lots of places are doing bachelor/ette party packs now. So call. It can only save you money.

And dont be that drunk guy. Drunk guy at dinner paid for EVERYTHING. I think the bill was 1500 before tip. And if you thought we paid him back… Well, he drank it all himself and he insisted numerous times on us letting him pay… I mean NUMEROUS times he insisted. Good story to that too. He doesnt remember how he got into his apartment. He remembers laying down on the street in front of his building, but he woke up in his bed. How he got there he doesnt know. I guessed the doorman.

Your wife’s comments about the ‘prepare-for-the-penis” bachelorette party is spot on. I’m female, and have only been to three bachelorette parties. One involved a male strip-club (hilarious and not at all sexy…most of us gals would rather have watched women strip than the oiled Fabio wannabes rubbing their genitals on us!), the other a super lame and uncomfortable penis-themed party (penis ice cubes, suckers, pinata, etc)….

But the best one of all was my best friend and I on a 3-day backpacking trip at a National Park. Hands down, one of the best things we’ve ever done together – and her hubby-to-be was insanely jealous! Unfortunately, her other girl friends thought it absolutely unacceptable that she not have the night of penis paraphernalia, so she was the one with the lame penis party mentioned above (which she herself did not enjoy one bit)! When asked what kind of bachelorette party she had, she always mentions the backpacking….never the other party.

Point is – the girl’s parties definitely need some tweaking too! No way do I want anyone taking me clubbing or making me a penis-shaped cake. What’s the point!

I have a few friends who have been tapped to throw some upcoming bachelor parties, and will definitely be directing them to this page.

Luckily my brother and I had the good sense to coordinate each others “parties” and they were extremely small, personal and memorable. As I recall, a few of his closest friends joined us for the night of fun and we spent time reflecting on life, enjoying the company and got a coffee at Starbucks to cap the evening off.

My brother did the same for me, with much shorter notice, when I got married. Small, intimate, memorable time with friends.

Thanks for the guide, perhaps some men will consider this when planning their friends in the future.