Comments on: How to Be the Perfect Party Guest http://artofmanliness.com/2008/12/17/how-to-be-the-perfect-party-guest/ Men's Interests and Lifestyle Sat, 11 Feb 2012 22:41:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Henri http://artofmanliness.com/2008/12/17/how-to-be-the-perfect-party-guest/comment-page-1/#comment-73532 Henri Wed, 06 Jan 2010 16:15:51 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=1271#comment-73532 Take Gas-x before you go to a party. I was at a party and while some one told a joke while laughing uncontrlably one of the guests farted loudley which caused every body to laugh in hysterics. Take Gas-x before you go to a party. I was at a party and while some one told a joke while laughing uncontrlably one of the guests farted loudley which caused every body to laugh in hysterics.

]]> By: Free Kids Games http://artofmanliness.com/2008/12/17/how-to-be-the-perfect-party-guest/comment-page-1/#comment-45339 Free Kids Games Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:17:26 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=1271#comment-45339 I always write thank you notes and you wouldn't believe the response such a small gesture gets. It makes the host feel special, people love to know their being thought of. I always write thank you notes and you wouldn’t believe the response such a small gesture gets. It makes the host feel special, people love to know their being thought of.

]]> By: club penguin http://artofmanliness.com/2008/12/17/how-to-be-the-perfect-party-guest/comment-page-1/#comment-32687 club penguin Tue, 16 Jun 2009 07:38:46 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=1271#comment-32687 I would like to mention that bringing flowers to a party only adds to the hosts responsibilities as he or she must scramble to find a vase in which to place the flowers. Additionally, the flowers may not compliment the planned decor and would make the host uncomfortable should she (or he) choose not display them. Although the same is somewhat true of the wine, as you already mentioned, the host need not feel compelled to serve it. I would like to mention that bringing flowers to a party only adds to the hosts responsibilities as he or she must scramble to find a vase in which to place the flowers. Additionally, the flowers may not compliment the planned decor and would make the host uncomfortable should she (or he) choose not display them. Although the same is somewhat true of the wine, as you already mentioned, the host need not feel compelled to serve it.

]]> By: Dianna http://artofmanliness.com/2008/12/17/how-to-be-the-perfect-party-guest/comment-page-1/#comment-21758 Dianna Mon, 26 Jan 2009 10:49:04 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=1271#comment-21758 @Dick, I feel the same way, and I would prefer that guests merely stack up their plates, anywhere that is convenient. I am very possessive about my kitchen, lol. As to the idea that you should arrive late, I find this very off-putting. The later guests arrive the more that I feel that they don't appreciate the importance of the invitation. However, I realize that this may be a western convention. I was asked to play a duet at an eastern wedding. The bridal party showed up an hour after the stated start time. However, everyone appreciated my contribution and was very gracious. I guess your mileage may vary! @Dick, I feel the same way, and I would prefer that guests merely stack up their plates, anywhere that is convenient. I am very possessive about my kitchen, lol. As to the idea that you should arrive late, I find this very off-putting. The later guests arrive the more that I feel that they don’t appreciate the importance of the invitation. However, I realize that this may be a western convention.

I was asked to play a duet at an eastern wedding. The bridal party showed up an hour after the stated start time. However, everyone appreciated my contribution and was very gracious. I guess your mileage may vary!

]]> By: Hannes http://artofmanliness.com/2008/12/17/how-to-be-the-perfect-party-guest/comment-page-1/#comment-21405 Hannes Sun, 11 Jan 2009 22:18:13 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=1271#comment-21405 How to: be a great guest 1) An invitation is not a gift. It is an investment. 2) Never come empty handed. Please remind me: Why exactly did I invite you? Ah, you don't know, too? 3) Never go without compliments 4) Make the host relaxed by doing his time consuming work like doing dinner, dishes, candles etc. It's the helping hands that make parties possible. Having parties is hard work. No help strongly decreases the frequency and greatly increases the guest rotation. 5) Of course you give the host a call the next day to thank him if you liked the party. If you didn't like it, lean back, do nothing. There is no need to be invited again. 6) Issue reinvitations. Hosts like to be guests too and as they know what it takes, they tend to be good ones. ---------------- This is what I wrote for myself so I can select the great guests from the normal or even bad ones. I tend to throw a lot of parties, cooking parties and the like. And for a long time I had no clue how to spot great guests. I merely thought "I have to invite them again because I had invited them the last time" Wrong, wrong, wrong! One evening in my time in Hungary I had a terrible cooking party: the guests were 2, TWO, hours late and barely helped. I was furious and so I called one of my best friends Rabea. She said she just had a not so close friend have birthday party at her -Rabea's- place. They left without helping to clean. So we both had an angry minute to think about: how to select the really special ones. Those you can invite and you can be sure you will have a great time as a host. These 6 points you just read are what we came up with. They are now on my facebook page and I even had them printed out and put them on a "not too obvious, not too hidden" place in my flat. And what happened? By selecting the crowd they knew I was looking for them. And they liked it a lot as this gave me the ability to make them many more compliments, I'd have not enough sensibility for before. With all my best Hannes How to: be a great guest

1) An invitation is not a gift. It is an investment.

2) Never come empty handed.
Please remind me: Why exactly did I invite you? Ah, you don’t know, too?

3) Never go without compliments

4) Make the host relaxed by doing his time consuming work like doing dinner, dishes, candles etc. It’s the helping hands that make parties possible.
Having parties is hard work. No help strongly decreases the frequency and greatly increases the guest rotation.

5) Of course you give the host a call the next day to thank him if you liked the party.
If you didn’t like it, lean back, do nothing. There is no need to be invited again.

6) Issue reinvitations.
Hosts like to be guests too and as they know what it takes, they tend to be good ones.

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This is what I wrote for myself so I can select the great guests from the normal or even bad ones.
I tend to throw a lot of parties, cooking parties and the like. And for a long time I had no clue how to spot great guests. I merely thought “I have to invite them again because I had invited them the last time”

Wrong, wrong, wrong!

One evening in my time in Hungary I had a terrible cooking party: the guests were 2, TWO, hours late and barely helped. I was furious and so I called one of my best friends Rabea. She said she just had a not so close friend have birthday party at her -Rabea’s- place. They left without helping to clean.

So we both had an angry minute to think about: how to select the really special ones. Those you can invite and you can be sure you will have a great time as a host. These 6 points you just read are what we came up with.

They are now on my facebook page and I even had them printed out and put them on a “not too obvious, not too hidden” place in my flat.
And what happened?

By selecting the crowd they knew I was looking for them. And they liked it a lot as this gave me the ability to make them many more compliments, I’d have not enough sensibility for before.

With all my best
Hannes

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