yes breakups suck, and they happen and some people have honest intentions, but like this article says, at least man up (or in some cases woman up) and do it in person – you can at least look yourself in the mirror the next day.

i probably didnt make it up, but i have a saying “honesty hurts in the beginning, but can be forgiven down the road, and in some sense can be respected … the hurt from a lie never goes away”

nothing will rock your world more than, and i had to laugh when i read this article, getting a text message, from your girlfriend, while you are out of town on work, saying “i just dont feel it anymore” … and she breaks up with you through cliche statements (by text). its even better when its followed up by “i lost your number or i would have called” — no you didnt, thanks to blackberry technology, i know you deleted my info

and maybe i’m off my rocker, but i think everyone deserves to to know why it has to end, so like the article says “If you can’t handle the prospect of ending a relationship in person, you shouldn’t start one in the first place” so have a damn good reason for breaking up besides those BS cliche statements. i could honestly handle a girl saying to me “at first the infatuation was great, but i’m just not attracted to you” – i might actually shake her hand for the honesty – would i be put back? sure, probably, but at least i could respect the honesty. Telling me “oh you’re such a great guy, any girl would want you” does not cut it … cause obviously i’m not b/c any girl, including the one sitting in front of me, breaking up with me, does not want me. Am i a perfect catch? course not, i have plenty of faults, nor am i Brad Pitt … i’m just a decent average guy who appreciates honesty and a simple face to face ‘vaya con dios’

just my rambling 2 cents

Finally, after two weeks of emotional suffering (for me, anyway), one evening I told him that I cannot accept the way our relationship is going. And finally, he told me what I dreaded to hear – that he doesn’t love anymore, isn’t happy with me, needs to be alone. I tried to save our relationship, find some means of making things right, but he told me that he doesn’t want to save it. So we both reached the conclusion that the best thing is to end it. I was actually the one who said “it is over”.

It was very painful for me, but when I think about it, the break-up was done in a quite civilized manner. We both agreed to terminate it. I just wish he would have told me sooner.
Only one month later we met and he gave me a few specific reasons why he was unhappy. And believe me, I was happy to hear them. I’m that kind of girl who wants to know why, because otherwise the lack of understanding why haunts me. I finally have a vague idea why and when things went wrong and I won’t let that happen again.

I prefer a man who breaks up with me giving reasons why (but delicately). And definitely face-to-face.

Bottom line, end your relantionship either way you feel like it whether you are an asshole or a good man or whether you terminate in good or bad terms what matter is that your conscience is at peace with yourself.