Comments on: How to be the Perfect Houseguest

By: SwBratcher

SwBratcher — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 14:23:55 +0000

Great advice but never #1. Don’t send money. Bring money. On your first day or the first morning if you arrive at night, arrange to hit the grocery store with your hosts and buy provisions for the whole group in some capacity to help ease the burden of food cost.

This is also a great chance to plan meals at home as guests and hosts preparing and dining together while avoiding the expense of dining out. (I would encourage going out to their favorite restaurant too).

If they are still enjoying your wine and remains of your grocery shopping for a couple days after you’ve gone they’ll think quite fondly of you in your absence. (Unless you broke to many of the other rules above).

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By: Toukou

Toukou — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 08:11:15 +0000

My friend was moving from one country to where I stay and asked to stay for sometimes until he gets an apartment. Things happened in his life and is now staying for 6 months!

By: Jersey Joni

Jersey Joni — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 16:57:11 +0000

First of all, don’t assume your friends or relatives that just bought a vacation home (or own a primary home in a tourist area) intend it to be for YOUR vacation. If they bought a second home to relax and get away, the work involved with having house guests may not be welcomed. Don’t assume that you’re invited and add a stay with them to your plans. Also, if one of your friends is experiencing ill health (especially a chronic condition that saps energy or creates pain), it’s safe to assume that house guests would be a burden and kind of you not to ask to stay. That also goes for friends that have recently experienced a death or birth or other stressful situation in the immediate family. If you don’t feel comfortable contributing for groceries, definitely plan to treat for dinner at least once. If you have a special skill that can help with a home repair or improvement, offer to help out. Finally, don’t put your host on the spot by asking them if you can stay longer than originally agreed upon once you’re already there; they might not be able to think of a good excuse why not fast enough and agree to an extended visit even though it’s really a burden and will create resentment for future visits.

By: Scott

Scott — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 02:32:14 +0000

Money is a tricky subject and subject to a number of cultural complications.

I would never solicit nor accept a check nor handful of cash from an invited guest. My home is not a hotel nor guest house; you do not “pay” in advance. You are my guest. If I couldn’t afford this hospitality, I would not have invited you.

There are more subtle approaches to “paying one’s way” or “earning one’s keep”. I do agree with April that protocol demands reciprocity. It’s just that there are alternate ways to do this, few of which involve direct money transfer.

It’s similar to the difference between giving a gift certificate or check (less than personal, little thought) and a gift (personal and thoughtful).

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By: pylorns

pylorns — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 16:20:29 +0000

Man oh man I wish certain people knew about this… I’ve had some seriously rude people throw tantrums.

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Great advice. The consistency of practical and useful advice never ceases to amaze me.

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By: April Braswell

April Braswell — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 00:24:03 +0000

You know, I had meant to mention and elaborate on your marvelous inclusion of the best practice of GIVING a host/ess present.

Women often do this, and in a big way. When my late husband was still alive, this is one of the areas of responsibility that I had as the wife and lady in his life.

Polite host/ess presents include:

wine
food items
local specialties to YOUR area

I live in Silicon Valley. One the things I would do when coming in from CA to the NY area to visit where I grew up over the Christmas holidays was I would just stock up on GROUND PEETS coffee, wine from Napa or Sonoma county (what is restaurant grade for the rest of the country we get at Costco. Sorry, I can hear you whimpering, but it just HAD to be said! lol!), and SEE’S chocolate.

I would dole it out to whomever I was visiting. If it was a non-drinking household, they got at least 1 or 2 lbs of PEETS. SEE’S chocolate? Wellllll, you had to be one of the first place I visited to get that as I couldn’t be held responsible for it actually LASTING….

If you’re from Wisconsin, you are probably going to bring CHEESE…. Whatever are specialties from YOUR region, stock up and bring those.

All the best,

April Braswell

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