Comments on: 3 Man Killers: Sex

By: Vee

Vee — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 16:59:08 +0000

Grand Article!
My favorite area is…
“Learn How to Fly a Plane”……
Not only does this article speak to me about Men, it speaks to me about Me.
Too many times I could have found something more healthy to do than “another” relationship.
Amazing how much I am learning from this site!!
Major Thanks!

By: Sumisu

Sumisu — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 19:14:59 +0000

As a mom with two sons I hope that this article will make its way into the hands and brains of many young men. Aside from the word-usage errors, I find this to be an excellent article and will pass it on to the ladies I know that have sons and spouses that might benefit from it.

I’ll also add that my own husband was unfaithful (multiple times) and in retrospect, suffered from much of what was written there. He was emotionally unable to open up to me about his pain and fears.

By: z

Fri, 26 Mar 2010 07:03:49 +0000

This is huge.

Can’t explain fairly how this is affecting me. I’m planning to propose to my girlfriend this weekend and this article struck me in some huge areas of my life. This article shouldn’t relate to me because I’m among the seemingly small number of men who choose to abstain from sex until marriage, but the bit about the “innate desire to be useful, resourceful, valuable…and needed” helped give expression to my confusion about why I’m so anxious before the proposal.

It’s totally tangential, but I realize that this may be an area where my relationship needs to develop more richly, but for now I’m just happy to have identification for what I was feeling…

And, I also feel an odd gladness at knowing what will help me become a better man: not just hiding in my confusion, but helping to show my [wife] about what I need.

Probably sounds weird.

By: Errrr

Errrr — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:07:19 +0000

I’m going to offer something that wasn’t in the original post, though Christina mentioned it, related to “don’t walk down that street”:

Stay AWAY from the porn!!

Your woman CANNOT compete with the porn. The porn always does what you want, has everything you want, and requires nothing that you don’t want to give. Worse, the porn brings you into a world where everyone and everything is something you can use for sex. It’s like steroids for selfishness.

By: Rick

Rick — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 14:50:18 +0000

Infidelity, or other sexual exploits, often have an element of a kind of danger. Driving fast, living fast, standing on the edge of a 300’ cliff in the mountains, taking risks of various kinds somehow feeds a man. Even at 14 years old, I see the scouts in our troop seeking to be at least a little dangerous. Teaching boys how to fulfill this need in honorable ways is a key to successful youth work.