Comments on: Book Giveaway: The Swordless Samurai by Tim Clark

By: Mr. Tora

Mr. Tora — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 22:28:33 +0000

Put yourself in the opposition’s shoes. Know your opposition and pre perceive the offer, so that when a deal is offered you will be well prepared for anything. Having keen insights and quick knowledge is always a winning combination.

By: Fred Putnam

Fred Putnam — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 15:24:38 +0000

In their book, Metaphors We Live By, Lakoff and Johnson note that our cultural assumption (our basic metaphor) is that /argument is war/. Hence, “Who won?”, “I defended my point!”, “That was a salient argument.”, “Did you run out of ammo?”, and the like. They then ask how we would understand a culture in which people of different opinions confront each other with the assumption /’argument’ is a dance/ (I simplify). How would that change our understanding of what we were doing, how we ought to do it, and what we hoped to get out of it?

Furthermore, what if we entered an ‘argument’ with the goal of making our ‘argument partner’ look as good as possible (as dance partners should)? What would happen? Might we generate more light and less heat?

I was just wondering.

By: Phil Anderson

Phil Anderson — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 16:28:46 +0000

I need this book! Don’t make me stop this car! Don’t make me come down there!

By: Robert

Robert — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 20:38:22 +0000

listen first, think about what they’re saying and THEN speak….never go in like a bull…you’ll lose one way or another Iif not initially, then in the end)

By: RS

RS — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 20:54:28 +0000

Study what you are going to say beforehand, go into the discussion with a positive mindset, and reach an agreement that satisfies both parties. Sometimes in order to gain, you must lose. Simple yet effective.