Having read at least the first half of these responses, I’d like to say that, from my relatively inexperienced point of view, when you’re with someone who is sexually satisfying to you, you will have no desire to use pornography. I know people who think otherwise and seem to have relatively healthy relationships, but this is the kind of belief that goes back to the core of this article: modern chivalry. Those people I know who regularly use pornography also don’t engage in any activities that seem to me to be grounded in a sense of chivalry. You’ve got to live right – by your own standards – but don’t try to say that looking at other women naked is part of a chivalrous life. To those that warn of potentially “unstable” women that can’t deal with “such a small thing” as pornography in their man’s life: man up, grow a pair, and show that you can sacrifice “such a small thing” for the relationship you have with your woman.

To address the rest of the article, I know that women can, and do, defend themselves, both physically and emotionally. However, as several posters have noted, and I myself have been told by girlfriends in the past, they enjoy feeling like their man wants to and can protect them. Being there for support and protection is not the same as attempting to control your partner.

Solely on the basis of knighthood (something I am very big on) and standing up for my principles and what’s right, I can’t excuse the use of porn because of what it helps perpetuate. Not to mention dignity, which has already been mentioned – I have watched porn myself, and when I have, it’s like I’m standing outside my body and thinking not “this is wrong, I should stop,” but rather, “this is disgusting, why am I reducing myself to this?”