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By: Reflections of a Paralytic » What is Manliness?

Reflections of a Paralytic » What is Manliness? — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 06:25:03 +0000

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By: Michael

Michael — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 21:00:59 +0000

A great study. These are principles i will continue to abide by for the rest of my life.

By: Gary

Gary — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 20:34:17 +0000

As a recovering alcoholic I had to find,yield to and continue to practice these principles to remain sober. It has taught me a better way of life.

By: DP

DP — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 14:45:55 +0000

Great article. This is the article that tuned me into AoM a long time ago. I had just watched “Secondhand Lions” and in the film “Hub” gives his nephew an excerpt from the speech “Everything a boy needs to know about becoming a man” I was inspired and searched google in hopes that the entire speech existed somewhere. Unfortunately it didn’t, but that search lead me to AoM, which is essentially a constantly changing ever growing version of what that speech could be. I’ve been greatful ever since.

Speech:

” Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good. That honour, courage and virtue mean everything ; that power and money … money and power mean nothing. That good always triumphs over evil. And I want you to remember this…. that love….true love never dies ! Remember that boy … remember that. Doesn’t matter if it is true or not, a man should believe in those things , because those are the things worth believing in…… got that ? ” – Hub (Movie: Secondhand Lions)

By: D.M. Cook

D.M. Cook — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:32:44 +0000

Fantastic thoughts, Brett & Kate. Especially the idea that “consistency is the game for pros”. I’m finding myself in a rebellious phase of my life right now and realizing just how difficult–and how much more essential and meaningful– being truly consistent, truly dependable, is. Being consistent is one of my new guiding principles, and reading that from this blog (which I’ve only recently discovered) is a fantastic confirmation of what I’ve been thinking for some time. Thank you!

And your point about selflessness and servitude– bravo! What a concise and beautiful point: “Whether through kids or causes, becoming a man means serving someone or something greater than yourself.”

The most important thing to remember is that (as others have said), many things we think of as being selfless are in fact egoic– getting married and having kids especially. To truly evolve and “grow up”, we need to stop using others to get what we want and start using and seeing ourselves as tools with which to serve others.

Great work, guys!