Comments on: Cracking The Valentine’s Day Code http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/ Men's Interests and Lifestyle Sat, 21 Nov 2009 16:31:20 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: ProFlowers Valentien’s Day Giveaway: Send a $70 Bouquet of Flowers to The Woman In Your Life | The Art of Manliness http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-21890 ProFlowers Valentien’s Day Giveaway: Send a $70 Bouquet of Flowers to The Woman In Your Life | The Art of Manliness Tue, 03 Feb 2009 04:31:55 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-21890 [...] In case you haven’t checked your calendar lately, Valentine’s Day is next week. While giving flowers to the woman in your life shouldn’t just be reserved for Valentine’s Day, it’s still a good day to get her some. Even if your lady says she doesn’t want anything for Valentine’s, remember it could just be a secret code that she doesn’t want anything except for flowers. [...] [...] In case you haven’t checked your calendar lately, Valentine’s Day is next week. While giving flowers to the woman in your life shouldn’t just be reserved for Valentine’s Day, it’s still a good day to get her some. Even if your lady says she doesn’t want anything for Valentine’s, remember it could just be a secret code that she doesn’t want anything except for flowers. [...]

]]> By: Athios http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-20325 Athios Fri, 19 Dec 2008 09:31:09 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-20325 I agree that miscommunication and misunderstanding of exactly what is wanted is often the case. To paraphrase what has already been mentioned: "don't want anything" usually means "don't want you to BUY me anything" "don't want anything" does NOT mean "don't want you to do anything at all" My girlfriend saves all the cards I have given her, even ones I think are trivial. So yes, a little can go a long way. I agree that miscommunication and misunderstanding of exactly what is wanted is often the case.

To paraphrase what has already been mentioned:
“don’t want anything” usually means “don’t want you to BUY me anything”
“don’t want anything” does NOT mean “don’t want you to do anything at all”

My girlfriend saves all the cards I have given her, even ones I think are trivial. So yes, a little can go a long way.

]]> By: Juliana http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-17110 Juliana Thu, 13 Nov 2008 01:29:57 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-17110 Being a girl, I usually lurk here, but I figured my two cents might be helpful in this case, so here goes: When someone says "What do you want for Valentines Day?" it sounds like they want to know what gift to buy. The answer "nothing" is in response to that. Please, no gift, just do something sweet or say something mushy you usually don't. I think that's where the misunderstanding happens. I don't want a THING, I want you to tell me you love me with slightly more emphasis than usual. Being a girl, I usually lurk here, but I figured my two cents might be helpful in this case, so here goes:

When someone says “What do you want for Valentines Day?” it sounds like they want to know what gift to buy. The answer “nothing” is in response to that. Please, no gift, just do something sweet or say something mushy you usually don’t. I think that’s where the misunderstanding happens. I don’t want a THING, I want you to tell me you love me with slightly more emphasis than usual.

]]> By: Frank Schnyder http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-8860 Frank Schnyder Thu, 31 Jul 2008 21:02:15 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-8860 Kate's comment above really hits the nail on the head. A woman might say she doesn't want anything, but has no idea what she'll actually feel like that day. She will probably feel very left out. I wish I had seen it from that angle before my breakup! Kate’s comment above really hits the nail on the head. A woman might say she doesn’t want anything, but has no idea what she’ll actually feel like that day. She will probably feel very left out. I wish I had seen it from that angle before my breakup!

]]> By: Zak http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-8678 Zak Mon, 28 Jul 2008 20:14:53 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-8678 @Nick - Because no one wants to say "I want you to write me a mushy letter detailing how deep your love for me is". It is both trivial and profound at once and not the sort of thing anyone would want to ask for. @Nick – Because no one wants to say “I want you to write me a mushy letter detailing how deep your love for me is”.

It is both trivial and profound at once and not the sort of thing anyone would want to ask for.

]]> By: Nick http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-8667 Nick Mon, 28 Jul 2008 18:17:16 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-8667 The question still remains. Why not say what you want? The question still remains.

Why not say what you want?

]]> By: The Meaning of Flowers « Casual Observations http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-8660 The Meaning of Flowers « Casual Observations Mon, 28 Jul 2008 16:13:07 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-8660 [...] want “anything” on special occasions, you would do well to read this post about women’s secret code. Here is a hint: What the woman in your life really wants when she says she wants nothing is an [...] [...] want “anything” on special occasions, you would do well to read this post about women’s secret code. Here is a hint: What the woman in your life really wants when she says she wants nothing is an [...]

]]> By: How to Give Flowers Like a Victorian Gentleman | The Art of Manliness http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-8625 How to Give Flowers Like a Victorian Gentleman | The Art of Manliness Mon, 28 Jul 2008 04:16:04 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-8625 [...] When women say they don’t want anything for Valentine’s Day, it’s actually a secret code. Buy her flowers. You’ll be glad you [...] [...] When women say they don’t want anything for Valentine’s Day, it’s actually a secret code. Buy her flowers. You’ll be glad you [...]

]]> By: Greg http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-1058 Greg Sun, 09 Mar 2008 21:48:18 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-1058 Carol - unless, of course, she has made her expectations for trashy underwear clearly understood. Carol – unless, of course, she has made her expectations for trashy underwear clearly understood.

]]> By: Moda » Blog Archive » On your way home a VDay reminder http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-1047 Moda » Blog Archive » On your way home a VDay reminder Sun, 09 Mar 2008 04:23:31 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-1047 [...] serious when she told you that she didn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day, you better read this post about cracking the V-day code. Sometimes men and women interpret the words “anything” and “nothing” [...] [...] serious when she told you that she didn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day, you better read this post about cracking the V-day code. Sometimes men and women interpret the words “anything” and “nothing” [...]

]]> By: Hoopla - Entertainment Blog » Blog Archive » On your way home, a V-Day reminder http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-543 Hoopla - Entertainment Blog » Blog Archive » On your way home, a V-Day reminder Fri, 15 Feb 2008 00:24:02 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-543 [...] serious when she told you that she didn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day, you better read this post about cracking the V-day code. Sometimes men and women interpret the words “anything” and “nothing” [...] [...] serious when she told you that she didn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day, you better read this post about cracking the V-day code. Sometimes men and women interpret the words “anything” and “nothing” [...]

]]> By: Valentine’s Day - It’s at Least Good For a Laugh | Twenty Set http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-541 Valentine’s Day - It’s at Least Good For a Laugh | Twenty Set Thu, 14 Feb 2008 10:23:58 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-541 [...] Cracking the Valentine’s Day Code - Find out what “don’t get me anything” means to a woman… you still have time to change your Valentine’s day gift before dinner tonight… [...] [...] Cracking the Valentine’s Day Code - Find out what “don’t get me anything” means to a woman… you still have time to change your Valentine’s day gift before dinner tonight… [...]

]]> By: Write A Love Letter Like A Soldier | The Art of Manliness http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-540 Write A Love Letter Like A Soldier | The Art of Manliness Thu, 14 Feb 2008 04:33:39 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-540 [...] thing women most want on Valentine’s Day is not jewelry or chocolate but a love note from you. A Hallmark card with some prefabricated message simply won’t do. Women want to hear words [...] [...] thing women most want on Valentine’s Day is not jewelry or chocolate but a love note from you. A Hallmark card with some prefabricated message simply won’t do. Women want to hear words [...]

]]> By: Jason http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-539 Jason Wed, 13 Feb 2008 22:29:54 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-539 Strangely enough, I just wrote an article about those "nothing" sort of things... you can find it <a href='http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/02/13/9-ways-to-remind-your-wife-you-love-her' rel="nofollow">here</a> if you're interested. PS - If you're going to ask me to vote for you on Digg (and I would), could you please give me a button to do so? Strangely enough, I just wrote an article about those “nothing” sort of things… you can find it here if you’re interested.

PS – If you’re going to ask me to vote for you on Digg (and I would), could you please give me a button to do so?

]]> By: fathersez http://artofmanliness.com/2008/02/12/cracking-the-valentines-day-code/comment-page-1/#comment-532 fathersez Wed, 13 Feb 2008 04:51:43 +0000 http://artofmanliness.com/?p=48#comment-532 Hah! Many a man has been doomed by misinterpreting the lady's words. You are so right, something is better than nothing! Regards Hah!

Many a man has been doomed by misinterpreting the lady’s words.

You are so right, something is better than nothing!

Regards

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