Shift Out of Neutral: 4 Easy Steps To Get Motivated and Get Moving In Life
January 8, 2008
Are you still living in mom and dad’s basement playing Guitar Hero all night? Stuck in a dead end job that pays minimum wage? Have you still not finished school? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Studies have shown that men ages 21 to 33 have turned into a bunch of unmovtivated slackers. Meanwhile, women the same age are finishing school, starting businesses, and buying homes. You know… they’re being adults.
If you’re tired of your lackluster and boring life and are ready to shift out of neutral, here are 4 steps to get you motivated and on the right track.
1. Establish goals. Turn the X-Box off for 3o minutes and grab a pen and paper. Write down the goals you’d like to accomplish within the next year, next five years, and in your lifetime. Tired of living with mom and dad? Make it a goal to be in your own place by the end of the year. Want to make more money? Make it a goal to go back to school and finish within the next four years.
2. Discover the benefits. After you have established some goals figure out what the benefits are of fulfilling them. A good reason for moving out of mom and dad’s place is that women don’t want to be with a guy who hasn’t gotten it together enough to get a place of his own. Don’t be like the Entertainer from “I Love New York.” The guy was on his way to winning the love of Ms. New York (why he would want to win her love completely baffles me). But as soon as she found out he was still living with mom and dad, New York dropped him like a bad habit. A benefit of finishing school is more money. Study after study shows that men with college degrees make a ton more money during their lifetime than men who don’t.
3. Just do it, damn it. Don’t wait around for the right time or the right opportunity to appear. There never will be a right time or right opportunity. Just get to work. If you want to move out of your parents’ house, start looking at apartments today. If you want to go back to school, go talk to an admissions adviser today. As you start taking action, you’ll be surprised at how motivated you’ll feel to keep going. Opportunities that you would never have thought would be available to you will start showing up. What are you waiting for? Get to work!
4. Partner up. Don’t go it alone. Tell a friend about your goals and share your progress and setbacks with them. Having someone to talk to holds you accountable and can help keep you motivated. If you need help with something, ask for it. Your friends and family might know people who know people that can help you fulfill your goals.
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I am fully applying this article to my life starting tomorrow when I wake up. I’m going to apply these suggestions to my life and geadute THIS year. Its going to be such a pain in the ass. But I gotta “just do it, damn it”. Thank you for this article.
Newly motivated,
Andrew
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Men should realize that their social castration has been engineered by the carefully engineered and executed feminist upheaval of the last 35 years with the goals of (1) putting women to work and thereby doubling the number of taxpayers, (2) reducing the number of children by shaming housewives, and (3) increasing population command and control (because woman are more easily manipulated).
A 20-40 year old man today is apt to take the fact that women are earning more than him, that women are bossing him around, that women don’t respect him, and that women don’t need him, as personal failures and become depressed. Men should not blame themselves but realize that of course wages are depressed - women and immigrants are taking all the jobs that would have been his. The older men and their “trust baby” boys are enjoying the benefits of the cheap labour pool and the consolidation of corporatism that is enriching them, while simultaneously destroying the male sole proprietors that were once the driving force for creating a strong middle class.
The solution? Well, in the days of Robin Hood the manly man became the enemy of the state and found himself fighting with the Sheriff of Nottinghamshire for a stake to live on. Be brave, men. Be heroes. Don’t give up just because the times are tough and you’ve been given playstation heroin to keep you addled and compliant.
Also, what ever you do DO NOT go finish school. That’s the worst advice. You will have thousands of dollars in debt that will never go away. You will sit in classes learning BS that will not teach you how to make money in life. You will be brainwashed with lies and will, after you graduate, have as your best hope, securing some corporate job where you can lick the boots of your lesbian boss for a little bit more than minimum wage doing work you absolutely hate.
What you SHOULD DO is learn a trade, and start your own business in that trade. Those are the men who are successful, do what they enjoy, and don’t have to waste years of their life in some glorified whorehouse regurgitating political correctness and fighting hangovers. The tradesman is a real man - don’t let the media shame you into getting some worthless degree.
Depends what school you finish…I want to actually make money through scientifical research, Matt, I’m sure not every school will place you in a corporate job to lick your lesbian boss’s shoes.
Matt, I don’t know what Kool Aid you’ve been drinking, but that nonsense you’re babbling on about is utter crap. Feminist movements, worthless degrees? Sheer laziness and lack of motivation is what keeps people down, not their lesbian corporate boss. Sounds like someone has some serious mommy issues… did she ween you off the teat a little too soon and you’re still bitter?
Speaking as a 29 year old man who never made it through his freshman year of college, I will tell you that a degree isn’t worthless. It’s clear as day that men of my age with one of these worthless degrees you speak of make more money than me. This is my reason for going back to school. Not some lesbian boss or women with lack of respect for me. If you want others to respect you, respect yourself, work harder and earn the money you deserve.