Two resources that are incredible and will revolutionize the way you look at your spouse (and members of the opposite sex all around you). 1) Love and Respect by Emerson Eggelrich (the first half of the book just sounds like he is saying how great his material is, and the second half really is that great). This is a religious resource, but is worth it even if you are not religious. 2) Remember the Golden Rule (treat others as you would want to be treated). Many times we men say things to our wives the way we would as if they were men, and women speak to men as if children (we know you want the trash out, but tell us once not 30,000 times).

These two things have helped my wife and I’s relationship go from good to great (even with a 2 year old and six week old, no sleep, and busy).

I love the comments some of you made. Alicia and Samantha if your husband is working on a car, or mowing the lawn, or whatever he is doing around the house (even watching a game): grab a chair, sit 2 to 4 feet away facing him, smiling, and study the man you married. He may not notice you are there, but you can remind yourself why you love him. Then at a really good stopping point (commercial, when he is switching to the weed eater, when he is really confused about what to do next on the car) tell him you were thinking of 3 reasons why you really appreciated him, then walk away (and you must walk away). Good chances are he will follow you and ask why (then tell him the truly positive reasons you appreciate him).